Serious porn question...

[Premium Parrots]

Yeah, no shit. I haven't made it almost 21 years with my wife by actually communicating to her.

Thank goodness for sms, now I just send her a message in the kitchen that I need a frosty beer, cold snus and a sandwich.

that would make a great siggy dude.

[Ainkor]

God forbid people talk to their spouses. HEHEHEEHHEE

Ken

Yeah, no shit. I haven't made it almost 21 years with my wife by actually communicating to her.

Thank goodness for sms, now I just send her a message in the kitchen that I need a frosty beer, cold snus and a sandwich.

[devilock76]

Sorry man. That's just too logical. We need to jump to conclusions

God forbid people talk to their spouses. HEHEHEEHHEE

Ken

[Ainkor]

Not to be the naysayer but how do you know those searches were porn related. I mean I am sure they could yield a lot of hits of that nature but maybe he is worried about some other member of the family and didn't want to say anything. I don't know. I mean yeah if it quacks like a duck it is probably a duck but if it just has a bill like a duck it might be a platypus.

Ken

Sorry man. That's just too logical. We need to jump to conclusions

[devilock76]

Not to be the naysayer but how do you know those searches were porn related. I mean I am sure they could yield a lot of hits of that nature but maybe he is worried about some other member of the family and didn't want to say anything. I don't know. I mean yeah if it quacks like a duck it is probably a duck but if it just has a bill like a duck it might be a platypus.

Ken

[texastorm]

It is the virtual equivalent of finding out your husband of 20 years has been wearing your panties and licking your shoes while you're at work. Some people can accept anothers perversions. Sounds like she can't, and there is nothing wrong with that.

I am single but if someone went through my search history, they might be freaked out. But the truth is I am driven by curiosity and not perversion. For instance during the Casey Anthony trial I searched for chloroform.... hmm does this mean I am the killer? Did I fantasize about it? Sadly no, I am quite boring in that regard. I am pretty sure the words rape and incest have entered my google bar before as well, not the single terms mind you, but as part of longer search terms. However now I am quite curious what comes up when you google those terms and after entering this I will definitely be searching those terms.

So if your friend is not confronting her husband because she believes he would lie anyway, well that relationship was already over, and any ol' excuse will be sufficient to end it. I used to hide porn in places my wife would find it, so we could have confrontation, and I could continue my argument with her that I accepted her for everything she was, but she wasn't accepting me. Turns out in the end, I couldn't accept her rules and regulations, so I was wrong. I couldn't accept her all along.

[muddyfunkstar]

The big problem I can foresee here is that, whether she confronts him or not, there could always be that little seed of doubt playing on her mind.

Dan Savage is usually spot on the money with his advice, but in this case the woman has to live with the guy and their kids, so it might be better for her to talk to him. Not confront him and accuse him of all sorts, but go in to say "Hey, i came across this on the computer and i'm a bit worried, what's all that about, then?"

It might not even have been that he was getting off on it, just curious as to what a rape/incest porno looked like. I've looked up certain things on the web in the past that don't necessarily float my boat, but was just being a bit nosy/curious.

I dunno, I think she needs to talk to him, but keep it calm and non-accusatory, if only to see what he says to put her mind at rest.

[GoVegan]

I am going to take a wild guess and just say that this might just be the straw that broke the camels back and there are probably lots of other issues going on as well.

[desirexe]

Awww...PP, I am oddly attracted to that snuffer! He has perfect hair and looks like a gentle giant!! That's probably my favorite snuff film. BTW..fellow snuffers, careful doing "snuff" searches!

It looks like my friend is definitely leaving. I am glad she came to that conclusion on her own. I just hope she heads to her family rather than my house! I can't handle all that drama! See...I am a $hitty friend!! Her daughters are great kids, not fearful at all of their Dad so I think it may be like what Ainkor said...it sounded like he went on a few hour long porn binge that day..plus, you can't rule out psychological issues as well.

[Crow]

Nice Princess Leia cut-out!

[Premium Parrots]

yea this snuff film is very disturbing.........

[wa3zrm]

What's really sick are those snuff films that PP has!

[Crow]

The "rape" is a common theme is a lot of pornos nowadays. So I wouldn't worry about that...

While both scenarios are disturbing, I find the 'rape' part to be more concerning. Forcing someone to perform a sex act against their will? And to what degree?

[c.nash]

The "rape" is a common theme is a lot of pornos nowadays. So I wouldn't worry about that...

The "incest"... Yeah... That's just weird....

[Ainkor]

While those are disturbing things, and doubly disturbing things to look for at the same time, like with any relationship, communication is key. If they have been married, had no issues, why not talk about it? Of course if she feels that there may be an issue with the kids, get going like Action Jackson.

I don't know about the rest of you but in my experience, the world of porn is quite a bit like wikipedia. You start off looking at a rare species of shell-less turtles and you end up reading about the rape and pillage of Nanking.

Context is king and how your friend feels about hers and her kids safety is of course the most important thing.