WARNING:very long...heated..angry...message inisde)

[texasmade]

so i just got off the phone...and ummm...i can't say im shocked...but i am a little pissed off...apparently a kid needs to grow up with their biological shithead father that doesn't give a rat's ass about his kid instead of with someone that takes care of him provides for him and his mother...


im not going to say anything bad about her..or atleast ill try..i can understand where she's coming from...sorta.i don't buy into the whole he needs to grow up with his da in his life bullshit...i think she's doing it more for herself(maybe she's not over him completely idk)..but that's the only reason i can think of that she would leave somebody that actually takes care of he and doesn't verbally or physically abuse her to be with someone that has..


this type of thing has happened in most relationships...but to put it in as simple of words as i can think of...i don't care anymore...ill let them(females ive been with in general) make their decisions and do what they want...their bad decisions shouldn't be my worries...so they won't...its a new start...single(once again)..starting fresh..pretty much gave up on the "you'll find her one day" theory...is bullshit imo...im just going to have fun and whatever happens happens..


*sighs* no need in trying to please someone that can't or doesn't want to be pleased so live life to please yourself..im done with this its a part of the past now...it was a learning experience..now i know.


im going to get a drink and another general es and reveiw the criteria for my debate tomorrow...

[outsidelinebacker20]

Took me 42 years and moving to Germany to find a woman that was devoted to me. Respect and contentment are qualities I never found in an American woman. Your mileage may vary. Mine never did. Actually, that is a lie. But, she came so early in my life I did not appreciate it and was never really in love with her. Can not force that. Oh well.

Have your values, stick to your guns and let them go if they want. Watched my friends do it successfully for years. I, on the other hand, was the nice guy. I tried to please. It will never be enough. Find someone who appreciates it. That is the only way. 44 now and happily married. Persistence pays off. That, and a plane ticket. :-)

BTW, I spent many years trying to help raise children. Unless you find a mature girl, she will not let you into the club. They can not understand male child rearing. They think it is too harsh. They will overrule and undercut you. Takes the right woman to understand the benefits of trust and considering a two parent upbringing as best even when they want to coddle them.

Kevin

[Ainkor]

I feel for ya bud. I am very lucky to have the greatest woman in the world as my wife. We have been together for over 18 years, have three pretty cool kids together and still have a great relationship.

That being said, my parents divorced when I was 6 months old. My father has been married 3 times and my mother 8.

Unfortunately there are split allegiances with step parents and kids often times are the ones that take the brunt of the shit. Next in line are step parents.

Freaken hardest job in the world. I remember not giving a crap about step parents due to lame resentment issues for both parents.

Good luck to yas

[texasmade]

im not worrying about it...just gonna let what happens happen

[taketwoaspirin]

Bad luck Texas, sometimes the workings of the female mind are a REAL mystery...
I used to be something of an arsehole in my younger days, and then I didn't mind so much when the "ladies" didn't seem to appreciate my (non-existent) better qualities!

When years later I'd finally sorted myself out and become a half-decent human being, and was with a woman whose kids I was helping to raise, getting dumped then was a quite different matter!

Getting the bum's rush when you know you've ****ed up is one thing, but getting it when you can't find a thing you've done wrong is just..... GRRRRRRRR!

Never mind, I'm getting married in May this year, to a lass who appreciates all my good qualities (and is willing to put up with my many bad ones!)

Chin up mate, it'll pass. Some women just don't seem to want decent men...

[Condor]

The best quote about women is by Jack Nicholson in As Good as It Gets.

When asked about how he writes women characters so well-

"I think of a man, and I take away reason and accountability."

[Xobeloot]

"I think of a man, and I take away reason and accountability."

Greatest quote ever!

[bearcat87]

Wow been a long time since I have seen that movie. I can't remember the scene bit I can clearly hear Jack say it. One of the best quotes from a movie in recent years!

Tex, stay strong brother. I've never even been in a relationship that's lasted more than three months. Serious boredom and commitment issues here. If all good things in life were easy no one would have much reason to do them.

[RobsanX]

Women are like buses. Just wait around and another one will be by...

[JBean]

oh geez...

*shakes head*

[texasmade]

taketwo...most womens minds arent a mystery to me.ive worked on that lol..and congrats on getting married

bearcat..thats pretty much how mine have been...till i moved to georgia...then it was two years...then to weeks...then this most recent one..about 9 months or so...breakups arent anything new to ,e..trust me ive gotten used to them...never had commitment issues..i had to grow up pretty quick...on account of alot of things that were going on in my life after 5th grade..so im not one to complain and whine..i just get it off my mind then move on..


Jbean...why shake your head lol

[JBean]

lol...

I'm not gunna start a gender war here... but some of you guys are just as bad as us females.. haha

but hey.. you got a good idea in mind... don't try and make anything happen, it just makes things more frustrating.. i find going with the flow works the best in most cases

[Premium Parrots]

I love it when a woman "flows". :wink:

[texasmade]

lol...

I'm not gunna start a gender war here... but some of you guys are just as bad as us females.. haha

but hey.. you got a good idea in mind... don't try and make anything happen, it just makes things more frustrating.. i find going with the flow works the best in most cases

oh im not saying there arent men that are just as bad or worse..i know a few of em lol

and PP...which flow are you talking about because im pretty sure there are three...and two of them are not something a normal guy would love... :?

[JBean]

I love it when a woman "flows". :wink:

as they say in Minnesota.."oh geez!"


and txmade.. 3 ways of flowing? can I get a run down of these?