Q: Needy Women

[AP]

Let me give you a advice my friend, i had a girlfriend like this once , she turned my life in a living hell in the year or so we were together , calling me all the time , coming to my house in the middle of the night just to check if i was there and this kind of stuff, i liked her , thats why i tried for a full year but she was helpless, and i was forced to brake up with her.
Get out while you can

[GoVegan]

Relationships aren't this old f'ing house, who goes shopping for a cheap fix er upper on a date? If they are shopping for that then they are just as desperate and will appreciate the neediness, at least at first.

Precious, go rent the movie fatal attraction.

Ken

You should see what happens ina bar when the bartender says "last call" lol

[GoVegan]

Precious- if you don't like and respect her as is its hopeless. If you do like her, then it may be a matter of putting up with her idiosyncrancies for a while.

[precious007]

Let me give you a advice my friend, i had a girlfriend like this once , she turned my life in a living hell in the year or so we were together , calling me all the time , coming to my house in the middle of the night just to check if i was there and this kind of stuff, i liked her , thats why i tried for a full year but she was helpless, and i was forced to brake up with her.
Get out while you can

most of the time she doesn't do this in person -

believe me she's the nicest person to be with when you are with her but then it all starts when I leave the house or when I am not with her -

today I woke up in the morning and my cell was turned off

it was 10 AM and I already had 6 missed calls from her

normal?

[devilock76]

You should see what happens ina bar when the bartender says "last call" lol

Been there, eons ago it seems, although I see it third person from the stage each weekend. That is not a relationship, that is nocturnal recreation and the desperate last minute search for an equally or more drunk partner...

It only has to last till the cab gets there.

Ken

[devilock76]

most of the time she doesn't do this in person -

believe me she's the nicest person to be with when you are with her but then it all starts when I leave the house or when I am not with her -

today I woke up in the morning and my cell was turned off

it was 10 AM and I already had 6 missed calls from her

normal?

Whatever is the cause does not matter, people think, well maybe if we get to this "stage" of trust or intimacy it will get better, it doesn't. It gets worse, or evolves even weirder. Without professional help it will probably never change, especially at that life point, hell it might not change even with help. It is not clingy, it has nothing to do with you, it is the idea of a partner she can control/be paranoid of, or whatever is going on.

Lx said it best, insecurity, plain and simple, and someone who is insecure isn't comfortable with themselves, they will never learn to be comfortable with others, and at the later end of the game, it is a lot harder to get that dog to hunt.

Ken

[precious007]

Whatever is the cause does not matter, people think, well maybe if we get to this "stage" of trust or intimacy it will get better, it doesn't. It gets worse, or evolves even weirder. Without professional help it will probably never change, especially at that life point, hell it might not change even with help. It is not clingy, it has nothing to do with you, it is the idea of a partner she can control/be paranoid of, or whatever is going on.

Lx said it best, insecurity, plain and simple, and someone who is insecure isn't comfortable with themselves, they will never learn to be comfortable with others, and at the later end of the game, it is a lot harder to get that dog to hunt.

Ken

back on the board after a "40 minutes chat" on the phone :-)

Yep, I think lx said it best, it's all about insecurity and the insecurity might as well grow after several failed relationships

I am not that secure emotionally either but I learned to be a bit more understanding and more mature in the relationship - I am not that one night stand guy I've been always looking for that "ONE" that I would feel confortable with and that I could share my life with.

The biggest disapointment in my life was after a 10 year relationship (we loved each other like mad) annd it ended up to be the worst night mare so I had lots to learn from it and from another couple dozens of relationships with other gals.

[AP]

Whatever is the cause does not matter, people think, well maybe if we get to this "stage" of trust or intimacy it will get better, it doesn't. It gets worse, or evolves even weirder. Without professional help it will probably never change, especially at that life point, hell it might not change even with help. It is not clingy, it has nothing to do with you, it is the idea of a partner she can control/be paranoid of, or whatever is going on.

Lx said it best, insecurity, plain and simple, and someone who is insecure isn't comfortable with themselves, they will never learn to be comfortable with others, and at the later end of the game, it is a lot harder to get that dog to hunt.

Ken

well said.

[Ansel]

A good woman is like a bus. I'm not sure why though...

[precious007]

A good woman is like a bus. I'm not sure why though...

it has to be a pleasant ride that's why

double decker bus perhaps

lmao

[Ansel]

Dunno what's worse, you get the non needy ones... you know the bumptious independent types. Christ, it's a lottery out there.

[precious007]

Dunno what's worse, you get the non needy ones... you know the bumptious independent types. Christ, it's a lottery out there.

I believe that if there isn't love a relationship cannot last too much - there has to be something that words can't tell

otherwise it's a waste of time - or just some fun

[Premium Parrots]

Get yourself a chainsaw and a blue barrel, learn how to use them and all your troubles will dissappear.

[desirexe]

Ditch the bitch!!!

[pris]

Ya know, I just knew PP would say that :-) lol

Get yourself a chainsaw and a blue barrel, learn how to use them and all your troubles will dissappear.