Q: Needy Women

**lxskllr** · 04-03-12, 06:57 PM

Not that I'm aware of. I think she's just insecure. I'd suggest you GTFO while you can. I foresee much unpleasantness in your future.

**precious007** · 04-03-12, 07:03 PM

Originally posted by lxskllr

Not that I'm aware of. I think she's just insecure. I'd suggest you GTFO while you can. I foresee much unpleasantness in your future.

Insecure about the relationship you mean? Or just in general?

I looked a bit into her background, she has never been married, has one kid (10 year old) and she's been dumped about 10 times in 5 years (she told me)

there's must be somthing to this

**lxskllr** · 04-03-12, 07:07 PM

Originally posted by precious007

Insecure about the relationship you mean? Or just in general?

I looked a bit into her background, she has never been married, has one kid (10 year old) and she's been dumped about 10 times in 5 years (she told me)

there's must be somthing to this

Insecure in general. Everyone's different, but if she's clingy, and always demanding accountability from the person she's with, that can start a feedback loop of her irritating people, getting dumped, becoming more irritating, getting dumped...

**devilock76** · 04-03-12, 07:12 PM

+1

Ken

**precious007** · 04-03-12, 07:14 PM

Originally posted by lxskllr

Insecure in general. Everyone's different, but if she's clingy, and always demanding accountability from the person she's with, that can start a feedback loop of her irritating people, getting dumped, becoming more irritating, getting dumped...

Think you're right lx :^)

Just found this bit:

The thing about needy woman who are older say45+ is they have seen all the good and all the bad in men...that just don't qualify to them....so their standards get higher each time and the neediness just gets magnified...then they reach the married by 50 thing and it gets magnified again...I know a woman who is turning 49 soon...she has never been married but broke a few engagements off...she is fantastic except when she's needy.....and the older she gets the worse it gets

Read more: http://blogcritics.org/culture/artic...#ixzz1oAOEdYZ4

Basically the most irritating thing in all this "needy" thing is seeing the person so damn needy and always demanding, even getting nervous visibly sometimes because she doesn't get what she wants, lol it's stupid

She even told me in the first week she's in love with me (can't believe it) I believe that's a trick played

**GoVegan** · 04-03-12, 07:14 PM

There could be a thousand reasons for this. Perhaps even past abuse or it could just be her personality. It could also be a reflection over your own insecurity and perhaps this is a teachable moment for you. It is impossible for us to even take a wise guess without her side of the story. Why not ask her?

**precious007** · 04-03-12, 07:15 PM

Originally posted by GoVegan

There could be a thousand reasons for this. Perhaps even past abuse or it could just be her personality. It could also be a reflection over your own insecurity and perhaps this is a teachable moment for you. It is impossible for us to even take a wise guess without her side of the story. Why not ask her?

I've asked her dozens of questions -

She believes that phoning 20 times a day is normal - Needless to say more

What is true is true - I don't love her and I told her I don't feel love for her at the moment - And she's like - You don't love me, You have to love me!

WTF?

don't like to rant about this too much but - I have the flu for like 2 weeks - went over to hers like every day (not for two days I didn't) and I can feel her boiling on the phone - she doesn't concentrate on telling me nice words and stuff to feel better etc - she's more worried of why I am not going to her - she just can't stand it - Her main concern is why I am not her not that I have a damn nasty flu that persists !!! lol

**GoVegan** · 04-03-12, 07:20 PM

Originally posted by precious007

I've asked her dozens of questions -

She believes that phoning 20 times a day is normal - Needless to say more

If she believes that is normal and it drives you nuts, perhaps its time to get out while you can. Who knows, maybe she was/is madly in love with an ex who cheated on her even after she gave the relationship 100%? That is just speculation though.

**precious007** · 04-03-12, 07:22 PM

Originally posted by GoVegan

If she believes that is normal and it drives you nuts, perhaps its time to get out while you can. Who knows, maybe she was/is madly in love with an ex who cheated on her even after she gave the relationship 100%? That is just speculation though.

She isn't in love with anyone, she doesn't seem to be at least and she's been alone for the last 6 months at least

what I didn't understand in the first place, and it seems that she is even financially needy - she lives in her sister's house at the moment, doesn't work and she's been saying she'll get a job for the last 2 months and she still didn't ..... every time she says she goes to an interview something has to happen (either cooking or having something to do with the kid) anywayas that was not my problem I don't support her financially and it's not my interest, but still I don't know where she gets the money she lives on... probably her sister.... or something

**GoVegan** · 04-03-12, 07:29 PM

Originally posted by precious007

She isn't in love with anyone, she doesn't seem to be at least and she's been alone for the last 6 months at least

You cant possibly know everything about her in 2 months. Also, I have seen people carry emotional baggage for decades. She might even be with you physically but someone else emotionally. On the other hand, she might think your the ideal mate and is genuinely concerned about your intentions regardless of your effort.

**precious007** · 04-03-12, 07:32 PM

Originally posted by GoVegan

You cant possibly know everything about her in 2 months. Also, I have seen people carry emotional baggage for decades. She might even be with you physically but someone else emotionally. On the other hand, she might think your the ideal mate and is genuinely concerned about your intentions regardless of your effort.

I guess that would be the problem - she is insecure about my intentions -

the way she talked about her last boyfriend made me believe that she was in love with him at some point with him - because love has somehow turned into hate (just guessing) - she was addressing nasty words about him - the guy is married now and has another kid with the woman

She told me that she'd love to move in with her but I am not yet to say YES because of her needy nature and that might make her concerned

**devilock76** · 04-03-12, 07:34 PM

Originally posted by GoVegan

You cant possibly know everything about her in 2 months. Also, I have seen people carry emotional baggage for decades. She might even be with you physically but someone else emotionally. On the other hand, she might think your the ideal mate and is genuinely concerned about your intentions regardless of your effort.

Relationships aren't this old f'ing house, who goes shopping for a cheap fix er upper on a date? If they are shopping for that then they are just as desperate and will appreciate the neediness, at least at first.

Precious, go rent the movie fatal attraction.

Ken

**GoVegan** · 04-03-12, 07:35 PM

Originally posted by precious007

She isn't in love with anyone, she doesn't seem to be at least and she's been alone for the last 6 months at least

what I didn't understand in the first place, and it seems that she is even financially needy - she lives in her sister's house at the moment, doesn't work and she's been saying she'll get a job for the last 2 months and she still didn't ..... every time she says she goes to an interview something has to happen (either cooking or having something to do with the kid) anywayas that was not my problem I don't support her financially and it's not my interest, but still I don't know where she gets the money she lives on... probably her sister.... or something

OK so if you don't like her the way she is, while are you still with her and trying to get advice on what her issues might be from others? As long as you have a hand, you have options. Either you like her or you feel flattered by her. If its the latter, it might be time to part company.

**precious007** · 04-03-12, 07:36 PM

Originally posted by devilock76

Relationships aren't this old f'ing house, who goes shopping for a cheap fix er upper on a date? If they are shopping for that then they are just as desperate and will appreciate the neediness, at least at first.

Precious, go rent the movie fatal attraction.

Ken

I will download it :^)

OK so if you don't like her the way she is, while are you still with her and trying to get advice on what her issues might be from others? As long as you have a hand, you have options. Either you like her or you feel flattered by her. If its the latter, it might be time to part company.

don't get me wrong most of the time when I AM with her she doesn't seem needy apart from a few things -

she's needy and jealous type when I am not with her (especially on the phone), stressing me and stuff .... she wouldn't do what she does on the phone to me in person -

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